Are you happy today?
Of course you aren’t.
Your home loan EMI has lapsed. Your kid didn’t get into the school you always wanted to get him admitted to because you yourself wanted to study there. Your in-laws are in town and imagining one more month of spending time with them has caused havoc in your head.
The girl you loved for years has ghosted you and this has crushed your self-esteem. You are using all the defence mechanisms to cope with the situation. In your mind you’re thinking about what you could have ever done to deserve this pain.
The woman you see in the mirror has a few zits on her face and she doesn’t like the belly fat that she has inherited from her parents. The mirror always shows you a disproportionate woman who just couldn’t fit-in. More than half of the women out there are also dealing with body image issues.
You certainly hate your colleagues. You deserve to be treated better by your boss. Every day commutation irritates every single bit of your insides. And good heavens, if you are a woman you are blessed with some perverts on the way who make you feel sick inside.
Of course you aren’t Happy!
So when are you going to be happy?
When you fulfil that bucket list full of material happiness? Yes, you will get a transitory rush of hormonal high. Remember the time you wished to get your first pay and imagined how happy it would make you? That moment came and went; and maybe you spend that on repaying some trivial loans. The buoyancy of buying your own apartment faded away because you started planning the next loan for home décor. You were busy on your first foreign trip working your ass off on that internship that was supposedly raising the value of your curriculum vitae. Everything that hypothetically promised you happiness, those moments, came and went.
Go take a stroll at the self-help section in your nearest bookstore. How to improve your body-language, how to attract wealth into your lives, and also how to have a better sex life – very clichéd and common titles you’ll find in one quick glance. You know what’s common in all of them? They all talk about the future and how everything in your life right now is going wrong. And look at what the social media and publishing houses are doing to us. They’re telling us how writing a painful heartbroken letter to your ex-lover is helpful. All we are doing is glamorizing our past pains and sadness and serving them to the world on a platter; all because it’s selling!
Sadness and pain is serving a purpose. It’s acting like a drug for the masses. I have seen young adults talking in circles of how much pain their lovers have caused them and older people competing over the number of physical ailments they have.
But what are we doing to our present? I am not talking about a time span. I meant this very moment. Where is your mind right now? Thinking about what can go wrong two hours later? Are you happy right now? No?
No! That’s the myth you are living in. I am telling you. You are happy. Right now.
Your counsellor gives you a list of things to do that “will” make you happy. Physical exercise, reading books, listening to good music. And goddammit, if you have self-esteem issues, they will force you to love yourself which isn’t possible right now, not even in your farthest dreams!
But here’s the secret! You want to be happy? Give up on Happiness. You are happy right now anyway. How? Because you are lucky enough to have an internet facility and technology helping you read this piece of confession. You are happy because you are living. You are breathing. You are here, at this moment, able to use all your senses. You are able to think, read, create inspire. That’s it, YOU ARE HAPPY!
And what gives happiness to a cancer patient? An extra second of life!